It’s been a week (well actually it’s been quite a year…). “I’m tired of adulting” should be my new motto.
Why is it that we can’t wait to grow up? How come as kids or teenagers we can’t wait to grow up, move out, and start our own lives?
I’m sick of cooking and cleaning. I’m tired of finding a new pile of dishes moments after finishing the first. Let’s be honest, I’m over being responsible.
Adulting: Grow up
The reality is life is hard. It’s not just the everyday “typical” stuff that’s hard either. Everyone has bills. Most people have money issues to some extent. There are family issues and marriage issues. Issues with kids and pets.
Get a grip. Reality check. This is life.
Nevertheless there are so many more factors that go in to being an adult then we could even comprehend when we couldn’t wait to trade our youth for independence.
Bullies still exist (a special thank you to politics). Drama still exists (cattiness didn’t stop at 18 unfortunately).
I see my younger family members chomping at the bit for their freedom. I remember those days so vividly. To think you are smart enough to do things better than the way your parents did isn’t uncommon (in some situations that isn’t hard to do). You realize freedom isn’t what it was cracked up to be eventually.
I’ve spent needless energy worry about the negative perception of friends and family for talking about my angst. I’m over it!
Mother, where are you?
What I would give to have my mom keep up with my doctor appointments. Or to make sure that my bills are in order. Better yet, I would give my foot for someone to help erase all my stupid decisions, my debts, and all my problems.
When your 15, you don’t think of all the curveballs life will toss you. You don’t think about the consequences of making stupid decisions. The world is still so full of opportunity.
We all face the reality that we will some day find that being a grownup isn’t all it was cracked up to be (still looking for “Neverland”).
You might face some or all of the things you swore you wouldn’t when you were a kid. Poverty, homelessness, hunger, mental illness, and loneliness to name a few.
Tell your kids to be patient. Chances are they won’t listen and cherish the simplicity of their youth (again, not the case for every kid).
It really is one of those life situations where you really don’t know what you’ve got until it’s gone.
There is a light
One of my favorite J.K. Rowling quotes talks about how there is light even in the darkest of places.
I remind myself on the days I feel especially incapable of adulting that there is still good in my life. I have a wonderful husband who works hard. My little meatball-baby is happy and healthy. There is still good and light in my life, even when I feel shrouded in darkness.
There is no way around it. Adulting is hard. It’s exhausting. You might spend years of your adult life trying to find yourself, only to do it all again when circumstances change (marriage, divorce, children, retirement, death). If it’s any consolation, misery loves company. I find more of my friends are dealing with the same aches and pains than I originally thought.
So hang in there. I know its hard, and the road can seemed paved with crud sometimes.